Too many of us suffering in our relationships. Whether a close friendship that turns sour through mis communication or envie for something they can’t have, or whether your mate just doesn’t get you.

Sometimes looking a little deeper into why this is occuring pays off.. because if I’m willing to see what my part in a dynamic that’s turning to conflict is, then I am a huge step closer to witnessing a shift in the other too.. How, you might say when they will insist that they are right! It takes a genuine look at myself to enable the other to subconsciously change.  Not a superficial I’ll change because I’m better.. that acts like a band aid, it will never last. True long lasting changes in relationship stem from my willingness to change.. it might not appear obvious at the start, and I might benefit from someone with more experience to help me find my blind spot.

Either way its just a question of time and damage.. if I’m in my 5th year with someone whom I don’t see eye to eye with, then that should be an alarm bell.. taking it seriously and using the situation to either upskill yourself in being clear about your values, building a stronger sense of self worth, or whether realising your part to the breakdown may stem from your early childhood where your parent’s relationship modelled to you your first awareness of relating. And that might not work for your current partner.

Or if I’m single and I lose my self respect, I drain my body through various addictions, unless I wake up and realise this won’t change until I do. No amount of emotional torment, or physical harm will make sense to the intelligent person that you are. Learn to trust yourself to make the harder changes in life and put yourself on a diet for giving in too much to your indulgent personality.